Abid Gowhar
Srinagar/ Dec.2003
“A person is known by the company he keeps”. The modern world has changed the concept of this age-old saying. With the transformation of thoughts everywhere, the Word "Company" is no more fit in the phrase and perhaps need a proper replacement. Some might say it should be replaced by "the ability" because Joint venture thoughts being seen no where and instead it changed in to "individuality of all " concept. Some believe that every company itself has hatreds in the form of rivalries and the people becoming jealous of each other's getting. Yes of course there is increasing trend of envy and jealousy against each other in every corner of human livelihood in the present day atmosphere.
A bundle of thoughts on this subject erupt from my mind, once a colleague of mine was compiling and rearranging to make a compact book form of his write-ups which had year-long weekly appearance in an English Daily. I really was appreciating his accomplishment, knowing that how much difficult it is to have consistency and zeal for writing articles under one roof theme. Meanwhile this friend told me that his job has become neighbors envy. I recall that TV Advertisement of Onida brand to complete the slogan as " neighbors envy, owners pride". The conversation between us stopped there but the subject shook my mind deeply. Is it like that an owner really suffer due to envy of its neighbors? Or is it like, one gets stimulated by the jealousy of others?
The two emotions "Envy" and "jealousy" are as silent as one can imagine, but so noisy and destructive to be treated great sins in every school of thought and belief.
Envy called an emotion of discontents or ill will over others advantages. An attitude easily stirred up in a competitive materialistic society. For any developing society, it is not healthy attitudes that are often showed envious of each other. It is very destructive and self-devaluing emotion. Why people waste their energy by making comparisons between themselves and others, comparisons that result in somebody feeling inferior. There is one good example on, "how one gets benefited from the hate and envy of others “
"The most and big inspiration in my life, I got from those, who had hate or envy towards me. Every time they showed me their hate or ill-will, I got more strength and energy to fight”. Says great Boxing legend, Mohammed Ali clay in his autobiography.
Envy negates you, and what you have accomplished. It leads to begrudging others their achievements, and builds barriers between you and them. Envying what others posses blocks you from caring about them as persons and also blocks you from caring about yourself.. “People exaggerate the value of things they haven’t got” said George Bernard Shaw, An idea may be to analyze yourself honestly and ask yourself if there is a deeper, more positive drive beneath the specific focus of your envy. It is a passive, cutout phase, it burns up energy just
Looking, not moving, doing or creating. Remember when we indulge in envy, we are abandoning ourselves.
Indolence is a diligence but distressing State” said Mahatma Gandhi.
Action is no less necessary than thought to the instinctive tendencies of human frame. One who says glass is empty has his own perception of thought but one who says "glass is half full" is also right from his point of view.
Envy is treated as twin problem to jealousy. When jealousy has the meaning, wanting what someone else has, envy means when you don’t want somebody else to have, what you don’t have. We get jealous when we fear that a rival is taking away from us someone we count on for love, affection or even friendship. Jealousy is an acute sense of loss, defeat or rejection in which we focus on the real or imagined superior as enemy, who is in the cause of our pain.
Like love, jealousy is very much involuntary. We can not say as if “ I am going to be jealous”. It can be frightening in its intensity, its closest emotional relation is probably anger but it has more staying power than anger. It can provoke a passion to strike out in revenge, only with the jealousy the revenge sought is usually emotional. More often, it causes the jealous person to sulk and involve in self-pity. Sometimes we complaint openly of the direct cause but more often it is carefully disguised while we lash out at a baffled spouse, lover or relative about a dozen petty things for removed from the real cause of irritation.
Jealousy, like envy and greed is destructive and self-negating. It is an emotional combination of anger, dependency, hurt and self-devaluation when we feel jealousy. We focus on what we are not and compare ourselves fearfully to what our rival is. We are convinced that we can not be happy if someone we depend on for love, loves also someone else.
Actually, we must be honest with ourselves. Jealousy is two-edged sword. It lives upon doubts, it becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty. Remember when we feel envy to others we actually give them chance to become proud and confident.
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“A person is known by the company he keeps”. The modern world has changed the concept of this age-old saying. With the transformation of thoughts everywhere, the Word "Company" is no more fit in the phrase and perhaps need a proper replacement. Some might say it should be replaced by "the ability" because Joint venture thoughts being seen no where and instead it changed in to "individuality of all " concept. Some believe that every company itself has hatreds in the form of rivalries and the people becoming jealous of each other's getting. Yes of course there is increasing trend of envy and jealousy against each other in every corner of human livelihood in the present day atmosphere.
A bundle of thoughts on this subject erupt from my mind, once a colleague of mine was compiling and rearranging to make a compact book form of his write-ups which had year-long weekly appearance in an English Daily. I really was appreciating his accomplishment, knowing that how much difficult it is to have consistency and zeal for writing articles under one roof theme. Meanwhile this friend told me that his job has become neighbors envy. I recall that TV Advertisement of Onida brand to complete the slogan as " neighbors envy, owners pride". The conversation between us stopped there but the subject shook my mind deeply. Is it like that an owner really suffer due to envy of its neighbors? Or is it like, one gets stimulated by the jealousy of others?
The two emotions "Envy" and "jealousy" are as silent as one can imagine, but so noisy and destructive to be treated great sins in every school of thought and belief.
Envy called an emotion of discontents or ill will over others advantages. An attitude easily stirred up in a competitive materialistic society. For any developing society, it is not healthy attitudes that are often showed envious of each other. It is very destructive and self-devaluing emotion. Why people waste their energy by making comparisons between themselves and others, comparisons that result in somebody feeling inferior. There is one good example on, "how one gets benefited from the hate and envy of others “
"The most and big inspiration in my life, I got from those, who had hate or envy towards me. Every time they showed me their hate or ill-will, I got more strength and energy to fight”. Says great Boxing legend, Mohammed Ali clay in his autobiography.
Envy negates you, and what you have accomplished. It leads to begrudging others their achievements, and builds barriers between you and them. Envying what others posses blocks you from caring about them as persons and also blocks you from caring about yourself.. “People exaggerate the value of things they haven’t got” said George Bernard Shaw, An idea may be to analyze yourself honestly and ask yourself if there is a deeper, more positive drive beneath the specific focus of your envy. It is a passive, cutout phase, it burns up energy just
Looking, not moving, doing or creating. Remember when we indulge in envy, we are abandoning ourselves.
Indolence is a diligence but distressing State” said Mahatma Gandhi.
Action is no less necessary than thought to the instinctive tendencies of human frame. One who says glass is empty has his own perception of thought but one who says "glass is half full" is also right from his point of view.
Envy is treated as twin problem to jealousy. When jealousy has the meaning, wanting what someone else has, envy means when you don’t want somebody else to have, what you don’t have. We get jealous when we fear that a rival is taking away from us someone we count on for love, affection or even friendship. Jealousy is an acute sense of loss, defeat or rejection in which we focus on the real or imagined superior as enemy, who is in the cause of our pain.
Like love, jealousy is very much involuntary. We can not say as if “ I am going to be jealous”. It can be frightening in its intensity, its closest emotional relation is probably anger but it has more staying power than anger. It can provoke a passion to strike out in revenge, only with the jealousy the revenge sought is usually emotional. More often, it causes the jealous person to sulk and involve in self-pity. Sometimes we complaint openly of the direct cause but more often it is carefully disguised while we lash out at a baffled spouse, lover or relative about a dozen petty things for removed from the real cause of irritation.
Jealousy, like envy and greed is destructive and self-negating. It is an emotional combination of anger, dependency, hurt and self-devaluation when we feel jealousy. We focus on what we are not and compare ourselves fearfully to what our rival is. We are convinced that we can not be happy if someone we depend on for love, loves also someone else.
Actually, we must be honest with ourselves. Jealousy is two-edged sword. It lives upon doubts, it becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty. Remember when we feel envy to others we actually give them chance to become proud and confident.
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